Have you ever met someone that didn’t want to lose weight? Or someone who knew how to lose weight but refused? Or someone who argued with his wife about trying to prepare healthier meals for her family so that her child wouldn’t grow up in a fat house SO HELP ME GOD?
I informed my husband today that I would like to get rid of all of the processed foods in our house. I was inspired by this blogger who made the change and immediately noticed that the change was a positive one. She called it a relationship. A relationship with food. Is that what I have with Dr. Pepper, pizza, and Tex-Mex? I thought that I was good at surrounding myself with those that love and care about me and then nurturing those relationships. I was nurturing my own fat ass.
JuJu doesn’t see anything wrong with eating processed foods. Chemicals. Yum! I’m not going to be self-righteous and therefore hypocritical about it because I just snacked on green olives. I want us to eat healthy. I want us to lose weight! I am so fucking tired of being fat! Do you know how cute I’d look in little dresses? With my red hair and blue eyes? I’m adorable, folks, and nobody can see it because of my fat. Namely, I can’t see it. And really, I’m the only person that matters when it comes to my body. Seriously.
So, back to Mr. Fat ‘n Happy. I know that he wants to lose weight. He even bought ‘skinny’ jeans to supposedly motivate him to work out and eat healthier. It didn’t work. I have skinny jeans too. I’m disappointed in us. He seems complacent. This is one thing about him that drives me crazy. I know where he gets it from too which is even more frustrating.
All I can do is work on myself. Since I prepare all of our meals I have control over that aspect. JuJu doesn’t eat lunch but if I made one for him he would take it to work. We stopped eating after 9pm which has helped (although we’ve regressed lately). So while I love my husband and care about his health and happiness I am going to stop nagging him. At least I’ll stop nagging him about his weight. Everything else? Oh it’s still on.
I have written so many damn posts about weight loss. This will be the last one.
Seeing yourself in a positive light is the best.
We are changing the way we eat, partially because of my husband and partially because the doctor told me to get on a high fiber diet. You stay full longer and its good for your digestive track.
I have an unhealthy love affair with creamy things- namely whipped cream and butter. I was blessed with a good metabolism, but at 31 its finally starting to show that I eat crap a lot. And compared to the average American household, we eat well.
Um, where was I going with this? I don't know. Maybe its about moderation, too. Smaller portions help.
The best motivation is you losing weight! If he see's you looking hot maybe he will want to look hot too. Be strong and don't buy his 'bad' food when you grocery shop. Plan healthy meals for the week and write them down. Only buy what you need for them. Cut out the bad snacks. Don't enable him. Losing weight is HARD!
I am the evil friend she speaks of. I fed her DP and Tex-Mex this weekend and I don't need to lose weight. Man I am totally evil! Seriously I have a ton of allergy foods I have to avoid, a total pain. I can't use most processed foods, because they all contain soy. It may have made me healthier but not skinnier until I started eating healthier at restaurants. I eat out a lot, okay I eat out every day. That is horrible and can make losing weight impossible, because I have even hired a personal trainer in the past with no luck. For me it is the fatty toppings and extras and eating unhealthy at breakfast that kept me from losing in the past; cheese, sour cream, butter, and fast food breakfast sandwiches. Motivation that is the tough part and it took getting thrown up on every day by my 3 month old to get me to make healthy choices at restaurants. Now I fear the return of cheese and eggs, because I am an all or nothing person. I will probably eat pizza every night for a week and a tray of brownies in a day if I'm not careful. Making my mouth water just thinking about it.
So I guess my best advice is cut back on the extras and sauces and find something hugely motivating. The book Yourself the Diet might scare JuJu enough and is pretty entertaining. You do the shopping, so just don't buy crap. If he wants it then tell him he has to eat it at work. That is how K gets his Asain food and peanut fix.
We should cook big and healthy together and split the food sometime.
Sorry about the temptations this weekend.
Oh Brook this post wasn't brought on by your pushing food down my throat! Although El Norte did hurt my tummy a little. I need to make better choices.
I've gotten to the point where I sometimes make separate dinners for Harry and me (and Ellie – yes, I sometimes make 3 damn dinners). I just kinda got tired of wanting him to try to eat healthier to only have him chow down on a bag of chips 2 hours after dinner because he wasn't full. I'm tired of nagging about cholesterol and sugar intake and partially hydrogenated blah blah blah, so now I'm just worrying about myself (and Ellie). It takes enough effort to get ourselves on track, ya know? To have to be responsible for a grown adult to eat well right along with you is too much to ask sometimes.
I'm so proud of you!
It's hard for me to not jump on a soapbox, but… YAY!
i hear ya! I started using sparkpeople.com to track my eating habits and was shocked by how much I eat everyday! Kudos to you for trying to change your relationship with food! I know I am trying to do the same thing, and it is hard sometimes!!
I <3 bbq chicken pizza waaaaaaaaay too much!
I have the same problem w/ my Hubby – he can make a perfectly healthy meal fattening by adding cheese or mayo or butter to it!
Your husband can only help himself – you can't make him.
So focus on you. If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy, right?!
Oh my heck, husbands are no help.
I'm always like "didn't you at least think to get the low fat version?"
He's all no way!
Though most recently we had that conversation about Chips Ahoy, so I don't think the elimination of processed foods are in our future.
My advice — buy foods that are "your snacks" i.e. cherry tomatoes or rice cakes. Then you don't go to the fridge with healthy intentions and give into cookies.
Oh, and sparkpeople, its good, though I lose focus after a week or so.
I think you're ADORABLE. Period. Now..give me some of those green olives.
My friend always says "I don't know anybody who is over 21 and loves the way they look"…. how sad is that?
Anyway, best of luck to you!
You can dooooo it!
You're right, he has to make the decision for himself, but if YOU are the one cooking and grocery shopping, it can make a big difference. I'm so sick of processed foods too. When I think about all the chemicals and sugar I put in my body it makes me sick.
It's so hard. I've done it before…I lost over 70 pounds. But I can't get on the right track this time. Everyone tells me to relax and give it time. It's nearly impossible to pop in a workout DVD with a toddler and baby always needing my attention. But still. I HATE being overweight. I have a closet FULL of adorable outfits. All sizes 4-6. UGH…
Gotta tell you, I can't imagine my life without processed food, but keep us posted, perhaps you can change my mind.
And Lolly, Peanut is still little, you are still Bfing, you should give yourself a break.